Come on now admit it girls, you’ve said it or thought it a million times……………

But in our defense…..he acts like a child.

There have been a few times in my life I wanted to get in my car and drive off, never to return. A time or two I did get in the car, drove around the block but the tears were so overwhelming that I didn’t get far. Did my family hurt me? Yes and No. More so than anything we were all battling for title of control. All four of us were in the ring, strong willed and selfish.

After cooling off and calming down I realized before I returned home, that I was tired and done. I would give in, ring the bell I’m taking off my gloves. For a day or two we were all quiet. Then as our schedules got busier, and the laundry piled …..I took charge again….somebody had to and I was the only one who didn’t play video games, watch tv or take long naps. Quickly, I was back to giving orders, and taking the brunt of the daily living responsibilities’. A vicious cycle we go through, giving up control then taking it back. All the while our loved ones, play the game of doing nothing but getting waited on.

What I realized I needed more than needing control is this……….I needed a break, I was tired and drained and done. But I didn’t just need a “girls night out” or a day to myself. I needed a break in the old habits, old way of thinking and old way of doing things. I had to “change it up”!! I had to set boundaries with Hubs and spuds!! I had to lay down the control, and control myself!

In His defense…..he is my husband and I am his wife. I’m not his maker or his mother, so even though he may act like a child at times, I will not react to his behavior in a controlling manor. Am I perfect at this…….not yet but I daily make progress.

You can make progress girls! Change it up! Lay down the control, it really is freeing. You’ll find when you make those daily changes, you won’t act like his Mother!