Rising to greet this day my ears are filled with the mournful “woo woo ing” of the mourning dove. I’m guessing it’s Dorsey, and Dean has been out all night investigating a crime, so she’s fussin. Her tune is pretty intense even inside the house. Stepping outside to watch the morning sky give way, my serenity isn’t totally stolen, but it is somewhat hindered by the insistent “woo”. I bet Dean wants to get some sleep after being called out, and Dorsey thinks it’s time to address some marital distress that’s been building. She could be arrested for obstructing. Instead as she wooooooooo’s he nods off and on, and I go back in the house.

Like Dorsey the majority of us gal’s fuss, and our fella’s take a snooze during marital conversation time.
In Dean’s defense he’s worked all night, he is tired. Or is he tired of her insistent fussin?

Girls, do we let issues build?
In our defense, living around a police officer’s calling and crazy schedule, takes a lot of bending, flexibility, and willing acceptance.

Guys, do you stay too busy to listen? Do you tune her out?
In your defense, you’ve listened to problems all day/night long, and you have very little left for her.

Both guilty of obstructing.
To hinder the marriage relationship is a crime.
A crime we all fall into so easily without even realizing it.

Each marriage deserves the chance to be free!

So, for us guilty criminals, the following are some old and new concepts that will undoubtedly free our marriage’s and free us individually when regularly applied:

1. Find Your Want To: we each have to have the desire to put forth effort or there is no balance. Unbalanced roles & responsibilities leads to obstruction.

2. Take The Time: there is time to work, eat, sleep which all come natural to us. What doesn’t come natural is time spent alone with your spouse. Be purposeful in choosing time’s for talking and for sex. Time deprivation is obstructing.

3. Let it Build, Watch it Fall: one way or another built up stress, unresolved issues, unhealed hurts, NO effort, and NO communicating verbally and physically, are all the obstruction’s that can cause a marriage to fall.
To let emotions and desires build is to obstruct the marriage of reaching it’s highest fulfillment.

Hmmm that “woo woo ing” isn’t as insistent now, it is soft and low….as if she’s singing him to sleep.