The morning is still dark and the day is without distraction. In the quiet almost stillness my heart and mind prepare for the coming routine called life.

Reading my bible like a map to guide my thoughts and actions. Applying it’s medicine of comfort and inspiration to my heart. Will the day go smoothly? Will I slip quietly through without one inch of anger, or irritation for those people and situations I cannot control? Will I transform my thoughts of negativity? Well, let’s get out of bed and see!

In the bible there is the Proverbs 31 Wife of Noble Character. She is a mystery to me, and yet slightly familiar. Reading about her over and over again at different seasons of my life has offered encouragement, characteristics to strive for and yet, at times her example has brought me distress, tears and even feelings of failure. I don’t ever seem to match up to her. Except it reads like she is in charge of everything, and handles everything. Did this woman exist? or was King Lemuel’s mother giving him a better example of a woman to look for besides the one’s who ruins Kings? If the later is true, I wonder did he ask for her advice?

Either way God thought it beneficial or it wouldn’t have made the final cut for printing. It is for me to read, cherish and apply, but it is not written to condemn me, as every woman’s life situation’s are different.

What I’d like for us to see is this; when we offer our suggestions, advice and opinion’s without being asked we are being controlling. When we do not set boundaries with our family, friends, neighbor’s and co-workers we can become co-dependent.

Verse 30 says “charm is deceptive, beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.  What we can and should control is ourselves, and our relationship with God. Our responsibilities daily are already great, let’s drop the control of others and lighten our load.

Join me girls, as we let these words sink deep and bring about change!

For those of you, who may be in a mentally or physically abusive relationship please know there is help out there for you. I pray that you will find the strength to seek it. If you need any help in any way at all please contact me at juliemahan63@yahoo.com