Hopefully I can type through this one without laughing too much, or crying.

Most married couples do see things differently. The key to differences is seeing where the other person is coming from. This takes some effort, it doesn’t come naturally.

I grew up reading fairy tales, playing dress up, and dreaming of prince charming. It didn’t even matter what the real world was about growing up, because I had my own imaginary ideas. I didn’t have a Daddy to base my prince off of, all I had was books, movies and my own imagination. Even later in my teen years seeing my friends in relationships, I looked only at the outside.

My idea then of romance was slightly unrealistic and unfair.

Hubs enjoys romance…..shhhh don’t tell anyone. He just isn’t comfortable initiating it. He didn’t grow up reading fairy tales or dreaming of his princess.  He isn’t creative, he sees black and white, I see colors. His idea of a romantic evening is going to a movie where someone get’s offed in a very gruesome way. Mine is holding hands during the movie especially if there is killing, I need a hand to squeeze.I came into the marriage not seeing where he was coming from and vice versa which created years of hurt and discouragement for us both. Now that Hubs knows where I’m coming from occasionally he’ll reach for my hand, before I reach for his.

Seeing where the other is coming from and then accepting that can lead to some very sincere romance, not just the fairy tale stuff.